4 Things to say when you don’t know what to say.

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Ever been stuck for something to say? You know, when your brain turns to complete mush and the people you are with start to fear you are having a stroke?

It happens to me quite frequently and as my plate gets fuller and I am becoming more and more incapable of engaging in complex conversations, I have had to come up with some “cheat sheet” type lines, so I can smoothly glide over those potentially awkward pauses in conversations, or in my dealings with difficult people.

As I get older, my tolerance has decreased for social intercourse with complete half-wits. But life is made up with a kaleidoscope of folk whose opinions are different to yours, or whose idea of a great conversation is your idea of hell. Perhaps you have stumbled across a group of intellectually superior beings, or maybe, you just cannot take another sling match with an objectionable family member?

Remember these four lines and use them as you see fit. I have given you some scenarios that may be familiar to you.

“There is really a lot to consider.”

This simple line is so very varied in how it can be applied. A really good option if you are stuck chatting with a dullard. For example if you are talking to a complete bore who is waffling on and on about their choice of ceiling insulation they chose and how it was installed, and then they shake you out of your coma by asking what insulation you would choose, then this is your line.

“I have never really thought about it that way.”

This is a great comeback for someone who you have been arguing with for far too long and you just want to exit the exchange without it turning into a complete shit fight. Particularly helpful when dealing with family members or work colleagues who you cannot afford to have a big time rift with. You are not admitting defeat, but they will think you are. And you know you are right but you cannot be bothered to try and change their ignorant mind. It is an internal victory, but a victory nevertheless.

“Thank you for sharing your thoughts.”

Trot out this handy little line for all the passive aggressive people who give you unwanted advice, for example;

“That haircut is not as nice as your last one!”

“I am not sure whether I would have planted that particular rose in that part of the garden…”

“Next time you make this, if you use real stock it would be so much tastier..”

It is a universally handy sentence that can be applied in so many situations. When you want to word-spray your sister in law, who is criticizing the way you are raising your kids at a large family BBQ while you knock back your 4th glass of wine while your kids play on the road with a tin can while her kids are reading a book under the shade of a large oak tree and sharing a slice of watermelon nicely, use this line.

“We live in interesting times……”

I mainly use this line when I find myself involved in a conversation that I am completely out of my depth about, which is quite often I must confess. High-brow intellects love to congregate together at social functions, and if you happen to find yourself in a circle of these braincases and you are nodding along absentmindedly, and one of them ask what YOU think, take a sip of your drink and deliver “We live in interesting times…..” You will not look like a complete moron. I mean you are not really adding to the conversation, but you are not admitting to the fact that you have absolutely no idea what any of them are talking about. Once delivering this line, get out of there. Fast.

Conversations happen. Everyday exchanges with random people and friends alike. So remember these 4 lines, and you will never be stuck for something to say. And on a really bad day, you may need to use a combination of all four.

And if you have had to use all four at the one function, you are clearly at the wrong party.

What is the worst socially awkward situation you have found yourself in?