The Mumtrum


Last week we touched on that phenomenon known as a Mantrum, or in laymen’s terms, when your man chucks a tantrum. The general consensus was to treat them like one would if a toddler chucked a tantrum, which is to ignore, ignore, ignore.

So today I thought that we would delve into something far, far more important. The Mumtrum.

It is a topic that I have covered off many times, including this post which is one of the most popular that I have ever written. Mumtrums are very common and are caused by a variety of things, and are ultimately very bad for one’s stress levels. I chucked a mumtrum last week when the boys were fighting in the bathroom. One was inside the bathroom, the other was outside the bathroom and an argument ensued. The result? A broken bathroom door and a very big mumtrum.

Fighting seems to set me off. I recall pulling the car over one day, getting out of it, sitting in the gutter and bawling my eyes out because they were fighting like the clappers. An older lady stopped and asked if I was ok, and I told her that the kids were fighting and I couldn’t take it anymore. She was full of sympathy, being the mother herself of 3 boys, and told me this too shall pass.


My mother in law is the most serene person I know, and when I complain about the fighting, she tells me that sometimes, these things just happen. I want to be serene. Do they make a pill for that?

Mumtrums are not good for you. Imagine a small boil, growing and growing, getting more and more painful until suddenly the pressure is too much and it explodes in a big old mess. That is what a mumtrum is like, it ends in a big old mess.

So when you feel that inner mumtrum boil starting to form, it is time for you to hit that reset button. Breathe. Remove YOURSELF from the situation. Take yourself off for a little time out. Because like it or not, you are the grownup in this situation. Do not let that boil fester and explode. No good can come off it. Pus is not your friend.

What about you?

Serene or Mumtrummy?

What tips do you have for others to avoid mum-related stress?