What is your nature?


The man I married has Happily Ever After Syndrome. Signs that someone might be suffering this would include the following…

  • Unexplained happiness particularly in the morning
  • Seeing the forrest through the trees
  • leaving the plate on the dishwasher and wondering why I lose my shit over it every single time
  • taking extreme pleasure from eating sourdough and cheese
  • getting overly excited about grand weather, grand finals and grand red wine
  • getting excited when he finds a way to get rid of an unnecessary expense
  • Walking around his garden exclaiming how wonderful Spring is.
  • Gaining extreme pleasure in getting home from work, putting on his (fucking awful) King Gees and heading outside to play with the boys.

It would be a nice place to live, if you ask me. I want to get me more of that.

The other night I was discussing with him a friend who recently became single. He nodded along before adding…

“They’ll get back together….”

And I was all like “Dude, they are divorced..” and he was all like “Really?” and I was all like “Yes”.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be so highly optimistic?

It is in his nature.

I was chatting to my lovely wise mentor the other day, and we were discussing the nature of people. I was wanting to know why some people are the way they are. Assholes on the internet, or right-wing conservatives with a media platform to sprout vile hate, those sort of folk. I was advised that sometimes, it is just someones nature.

She explained the Aesop Fable to me. The Frog and the Scorpion, which I totally had forgotten about.

A scorpion asks a frog to carry it across a river. The frog hesitates, afraid of being stung, but the scorpion argues that if it did so, they would both drown. Considering this, the frog agrees, but midway across the river the scorpion does indeed sting the frog, dooming them both. When the dying frog asks the scorpion why, the scorpion replies that it was in its nature to do so.

Fundamentally vicious natures cannot change. And with that I immedialty started to see people differently.

That dour woman at work who bullies you? It is in her nature. Your revolting racist uncle? Irritating and unacceptable yes, but it is in his nature. Road ragers? In their nature. Male Talk Back Radio Hosts? It is in their nature.

Is this making any sense to you?

A little exercise for you.

Look deep into your guts.

What is your nature?