Desperately Requiring Resilience!

At the beginning of every new year, I choose a word to focus on. I am not at the Tony Robbins level of self-help hype, but I know that I continue to be a work in progress. And now we have officially begun the second half of the year, I thought I should make myself accountable and reflect on what I have achieved when it comes to my word of the year.

This years word was RESILIENCE.

RESILIENCE – the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.

How am I tracking so far?

HARD FAIL!

I am like the opposite of resilient, in fact, I believe I am going backwards! I am as fragile as fuck, as weak as piss and as vulnerable as a day old abandoned kitten. Is it because I am a heart-on-sleeve wearing, tragic Cancerian over thinker? Maybe…

To be honest, I am quite over it. Why?

BECAUSE IT A FUCKING EXHAUSTING STATE TO FUNCTION IN.

Having teenagers has not helped. Dealing with uncertainty certainly has added to the pile. Loss of regular rhythms of life probably has something to do with it, along with my never-ending mood fluctuations. But I feel I am at that point that it is time for me to present myself to the game properly, to emerge from the dugout and step up to the plate.

When something comes along and knocks you over, resilient people know how to bounce back. I tend to stay down for a period of time and overthink all of the things, but I am going to try to make a concerted effort to not do this anymore as it is not good for ones demeanour.

But how do we brush things off and soldier on? Let me go and have a quiz around the web and I will report back. (Using actual application jargon from my kids report card)

Find a Sense of Purpose in Your Life – Satisfactory

Oh sweet lord, you are not asking for much. I struggle with this one at the moment. I suppose if I had a gun to my head I would say that I create and nurture online communities for thousands of women around the world. And I really love doing it and should perhaps acknowledge the goodness that comes out of it. Ok, back has been patted. NEXT!

Build Positive Beliefs in Your Abilities – Inconsistent

This is one that I will attempt to pull out of the too hard basket, but that will take some time. Negative self talk has been playing on a loop, but I am over it.

Develop a Strong Social Network – Excellent

I am all over this like flies on shit. I am VERY lucky and EXTREMELY grateful that I have a solid grip on the best friendships a gal could ever want. TOP OF THE CLASS!

Embrace Change – Inconsistent

Over the years, this has slipped. I am not sure why. Perhaps I am trying to protect myself? Who fucking knows. Improvement needed.

Be Optimistic – Minimal

When you have monkey brain hard wired to extreme over-reaction, this is a tough one. Will work on it.

Nurture Yourself – Satisfactory

Well, I DID wash my hair on the weekend! And I have stayed away from watching the news.

Develop Your Problem-Solving Skills – Satisfactory

I am satisfied with this part of my life. NEXT!

Establish Goals – Satisfactory

This has never really been a strong point of mine. Maybe because I see it as such a big picture situation. I will start small, setting small goals. Like trying to finish this fucking blog post.

Take Action to Solve Problems – Minimal

Procrastination, thy name is Mrs. Woog! My beloved must get so frustrated with me, as I phaff about putting things off that in most cases could be fixed with a phone call. He is the CAN DO person. Will review behaviours and make a list. Boring.

Keep Working on Your Skills – Inconsistent

Now this is the one thing that I know I need to refocus on. Writing is like a muscle. The more you use it the stronger it gets. I have been putting off writing a fiction novel for two years now. There. I said it.

Although this might have been a self-indulgent, mind-numbingly boring post for you to read, it was actually quite helpful for me to stop and think!

I hope a few of you know what I am banging on about?

Are you resilient? What’s your secret?